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Dr. Benjamin Koch's avatar

There’s something about a sentence like that  -  so stark, so weightless, and yet it carries the gravity of an entire internal earthquake.

“I quit my life.” Not a job, not a city, but the whole choreography  -  the rituals, the masks, the meaning structures. Few people realise that quitting your life is rarely about escape. It’s an act of reclamation.

What comes next, though  -  that’s where most people get lost. Because no one tells you that quitting is only the first clarity. The harder part is reassembling  -  not the old pieces, but something entirely new. Something that can hold truth without breaking, and freedom without floating away.

I’ve worked with people who’ve done this  -  some gradually, some in a single breath. And I’ve found one common thread: those who rebuild with intention find a kind of internal architecture far stronger than what they left behind.

If you’re writing from that after-place, I hope you keep going. There’s more on this side than most people dare imagine.

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Anne Boyd's avatar

Thank you for this! Everything you say is so true. I just scheduled a post that will appear tomorrow that describes where I am now—finally, reassembling, as you say.

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Cristina's avatar

Thanks Anne for sharing your experience, I can totally relate to it. I love how you talk about being in limbo and how challenging it is. Glad to see that we are not alone ;) If you find yourself in West Yorkshire, give me a shout! I'd love to meet you.

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Open Network by Emilio Lanera's avatar

Hey there. I have just joined Substack and discovered this piece in my feed. As someone who has just got back from two years of travel I really related to a lot of what you talk about. I also remember the limbo phase and initially being scared but then just embracing it because this is probably the most freedom I will ever have in my life. Hope you are doing well, wherever in the world you are. If you’d like to know more about my travels you can read my blog

https://opennetworkemilio.substack.com/p/why-did-i-go-travelling-for-two-years

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Im Writer-nim's avatar

Thanks for the post! I am not happy but trying to be no matter the situation... I'm looking for work and considering moving to South Korea, but there are many challenges so I've been feeling pretty stagnant. I'm mid-level in my career but considering switching but the job market seems dead everywhere so also trying not to have a meltdown 😃 but this was really nice to read, to show that even with movement, things can feel stagnant and uncertain. It's just all about keeping on moving and learning and finding a place or situation that will eventually feel like home, even if it's for a short while!

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SamJ's avatar

My Husband and I want to relocate from our home in Australia to Germany so I can study a masters and we can learn to speak German better. We own our house here and it scares me to try and tackle all of the stuff we have accumulated and also making the house renter standard (we have holes in the walls and an unfinished backyard). I don’t want to let the fear and worry stop me from doing this though. This post really inspired me so thank you.

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Benthall Adventures's avatar

I never realized how far behind the curve I was until joining Substack - but in the best way. Reading voices like yours has cracked something open in me. Your journey is so inspiring.

I left corporate life for early retirement and slow travel, and I’m still learning how to live rooted and untethered at the same time. I wrote about the start of that shift here:

https://thebenthalls.substack.com/p/retired-roaming-and-rooted-welcome?r=5ci1ff

Thank you for sharing so honestly. It gives the rest of us permission to change too.

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Sabine's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I‘m only just at the beginning of moving abroad (Deborah Levy was a huge inspiration to me!). I decided to do 6-10 months as a start, to feel out what it could be like longterm. I think I don‘t want to travel around, but rather stay in one selected area, but it is as you say – finding the right place is not a thing you can do on Google Maps. I recently wrote a piece about how I fell in love with the city I decided to go to, and now I‘m curious to see if my gut feeling was right. 🙂 All the best for your travels!

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Harrison's avatar

Love this! I’m Harrison, an ex fine dining industry line cook. My stack "The Secret Ingredient" adapts hit restaurant recipes (mostly NYC and L.A.) for easy home cooking.

check us out:

https://thesecretingredient.substack.com

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Michelle's avatar

An awesome but scary adventure maybe ;). My new salad discovery for the summer is lentils, beetroot, tomatoes (I live in Italy so we have some really delicious beef tomatoes at the moment) and feta (I use vegan feta). Does need a drizzle of good olive oil but you could buy a little bottle ...

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Lea Taylor's avatar

Hi Anne, Love how candid you have been and yes I can’t decide whether you’re brave or wild but totally understand your opting out. This life is too short to hamper it with all the capitalist conditions … yet here I am tied to it. Marriage - tick, house-tick. Job … semi tick.

I had cancer last year which was grueling on so many levels. Its appearance forced me to consider the existential questions. I cut back my working hours to two days … by the end of the year I’ll probably have jettisoned that too.

I’m on a different track now - signed up to painting classes … makes my heart soar; I’m giving more time for me - more time for friends. I’m traveling (in Portugal so write) - okay, just wee hops here and there but this feels more authentic, more grounded.

I hope you do come back to the UK - I’m in Scotland, come visit.

Lovely to meet you here x

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Rachel Morris's avatar

I think Leyla Kazim’s description of the capitalist lifestyle is spot on right, that it is designed to stop you ever stepping off the merry go round because there is always something else you should aspire to achieve before you leave. The way I did it, for better or worse, was to stay until the mortgage was paid off and then instantly to leave work and start writing like crazy. My second book comes out this autumn. Would I do it again like that? I don’t know.

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Yvette Putter's avatar

There are many aspects of your story I relate with, so thank you for sharing it. Perhaps it will help me discover the path I know is there, but hidden at this point, for myself.

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Mary Morrison's avatar

Very interesting honest piece. Able to just tell the story without making it a story!! Haha! If you’re ever in Brighton UK, give me a shout. Xxx 😘

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Julia Morrell's avatar

I am so happy for you and so envious. You are living the life I would like to have lived. But I am 77 and have 4 grandsons aged 2-15 and I want also to be a part of their lives. I am compensating by taking trips to Europe 3-4 times per year. Not quite your life though.

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Istarindo's avatar

A great experiment.

Good luck!

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DeeDet's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this! This is my first time finding your posts (I’m now a subscriber!), so forgive me if you’ve addressed this in earlier posts, but I’m wondering about the daughters you mentioned picking up from school in your US life. I’m guessing maybe she’s in college? I would love to read more about challenges with being far from family and friends. I would love to do what you’re doing but feel tied by family and friends in the US - especially aging parents.

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